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I Have No Idea Why My Daughter Doesn’t Talk to Me

我完全不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话。

May 5, 2026

Mother talking to adult daughter who is upset while sitting on sofa

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I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I did everything right.

我真不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话。我事事都做得对。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. The only reason I called her sixteen times that one Thursday was to find out why she was avoiding me.

我真搞不懂女儿为什么不理我。那个星期四我给她打了十六通电话，唯一的原因就是想弄清楚她为什么躲着我。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I want her to lose fourteen pounds so she can be happy.

我完全不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话。我只是想让她减掉十四磅，这样她就能快乐起来。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I wasn’t trying to make her baby shower about me—I just wanted a few moments to be about how I’m going to be a grandmother.

我真不明白女儿为什么不跟我说话。我并不是想把她的迎婴派对变成我的主场——我只是想花点时间聊聊我即将成为外婆这件事。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. Yes, I dated her high-school sweetheart, but she acts like I dated a minor. Harvey was nineteen. I waited.

我真搞不懂我女儿为什么不理我。没错，我是和她高中时的恋人约会过，但她表现得好像我交往了个未成年人似的。哈维当时十九岁，我可是等到他成年才行动的。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. After everything I’ve done for her! I hardly told anyone about her infectious-disease diagnosis. And I only told people in my church group so that they could pray for her.

我真不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话。我为她付出了那么多！她得了传染病的事，我几乎没跟任何人提起。我只告诉了我们教会小组的人，好让他们能为她祈祷。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I wasn’t trying to punish her. I just gave her some space for a few months. It’s not my fault those few months overlapped with her surgery!

我真不明白女儿为什么不理我。我并非有意惩罚她，只是给她几个月空间而已。那几个月恰好赶上她做手术，这能怪我吗！

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I was trying to include her when her ex and I invited her to celebrate Valentine’s Day with us.

我真不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话了。我和她前夫邀请她一起过情人节时，我还特意想把她算进来呢。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I’ll stop “rewriting history” when she stops remembering her childhood wrong.

我真不明白女儿为什么不跟我说话。等她不再记错自己的童年，我就不再“改写历史”了。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I told her very clearly: Harvey is not replacing her dad. But she does need to call him that.

我实在不明白女儿为什么不理我。我跟她说得很清楚：哈维不是要取代她爸爸。但她确实得这么叫他。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. Her childhood bedroom is still hers. But Harvey’s crystals have to go somewhere.

我真不明白女儿为什么不跟我说话了。她的童年卧室依然属于她。但哈维的水晶总得有个地方放。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. Walking in on Harvey and me making love on the Wayfair chaise lounge that she got me for Christmas wasn’t what I wanted, either!

我真不明白女儿为什么不理我。撞见哈维和我在Wayfair那张她送我的圣诞躺椅上亲热，也绝非我所愿！

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. Harvey and I named our daughter after her because we wanted her to feel special about being a big sister.

我真不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话。哈维和我用她的名字给女儿取名，是希望她能因为成为姐姐而感到特别。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. Other kids have it way worse. I found this out at the Brené Brown seminar, at which I also realized that I am a victim of narcissistic abuse.

我完全不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话。别的孩子遭遇的境况要糟糕得多。我是在布琳·布朗（Brené Brown）的研讨会上发现这一点的，也是在那个会上，我意识到自己是自恋型虐待的受害者。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. I’ve looked inward. I’ve done ayahuasca. How could I be toxic? Denial is a powerful drug.

我真不明白为什么女儿不跟我说话。我反思过自己，也喝过死藤水。我怎么可能有毒呢？否认是一剂猛药。

I have no idea why my daughter doesn’t talk to me. She says that I gaslit her. That never happened. ♦

我真不明白女儿为什么不理我。她说我煤气灯操纵了她。根本没这回事。

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